Good day all!
What does the word motherhood mean to you?
Is it love? Friendship? Home? Happiness? Warmth? Joy?
For me it is all these things and more.
I woke up this morning to my bed full of children… An arm in face and legs everywhere!
I may have had no sleep…but I sure feel blessed.
I have always wanted to be a mother.
It was the only job I ever truly wanted.
It is deeply fulfilling – yes even when they drive me crackers.
But there is one thing that bothers me.
People are under the impression that when you become a mother, you change.
You become boring or antisocial or child obsessed.
My favourite is that all stay at home mums are out for all the tax the government will give them!
Please, I have been a stay at home mum for a while and I can just pay the bills.
Now I am not a judgy person (its a word) but I really dislike assumptions.
I don’t like to judge anyone as I feel only Jehovah has the right to judge people.
But sometimes I must bite my tongue.
I feel judged for not being able to breastfeed longer than 6 weeks.
For not celebrating birthdays and Christmas, people feel my kids are deprived, but they get gifts anytime of the year. They don’t need just 2 days a year to receive presents.
Why does it matter if we don’t celebrate these things, my children are loved unconditionally.
But I am skirting off the subject here.
Mums have such a hard job. It is certainly not easy.
There are so many things that mums do, we are teachers, cooks, cleaners, cuddlers, friends sometimes even psychologists.
But we are definitely not lazy.
If I have changed, it is for the better. It is for my babies.
So tell me, how have you been judged?
Not long ago I was in the supermarket with the 3 kids, and a lady turned to me tutted and said ‘ 3 kids at your age in this day and age!’ I was stunned…I am 28! I could have cried.
Is it any wonder I struggle with feeling like a good mum, when there is so much judgement, and those who can’t help but give there opinion?
Ooh it just occurred to me how ranty this came across…sorry!! But it need to be said.
For more on this subject, check out a post from my archives in may this year called ‘being a mum’
Have a wacky Wednesday,