FMF – control

Oh my word I feel like the white rabbit almost every week at the moment…”I’m late, I’m late!” 😂

It’s not as if I forget, it’s more that it gets pushed out of my brain by the day to day life of being a parent 😂

Anyway I am going to get right to it, before something happens to distract me.

As you know I am joining in with kate and her linkup of lovely writers, for five minutes of free writing. Without going over it and editing..Eek!

This week’s prompt


Ready, set, go.

This is an interesting word for me.

Certain aspects of my life I have used as a form of control. 

Because sometimes when things go wrong we try to adjust by changing other areas of our lives – in order to try to gain control.

When I was younger I controlled my eating.

If you were to ask me if there was any trigger, I couldn’t give you an answer. Because I don’t really know myself.

One thing I do know is that I was so afraid of being sick that I just stopped eating. Which in turn spiralled out of control.

But the whole thing behind it I guess, is that of control.

Nobody likes to feel as though they have no control. It is one if the worst feelings.

As an example my husband hates rollercoasters – because he has no control over the speed etc.

I wouldn’t say I am a control freak, by any stretch of the imagination.

But I am a major stresser. I stress about little things, big things, things that haven’t even happened.


But we can’t control everything. Sometimes we just have to let it be. 

Take a deep breath. Have faith. And let go.

Turn off your control switch.

Inspirational women – Emily Davison

The other night I was sat by myself downstairs..A rarity in itself. But I got to looking through the movie channels, and came across “suffragette”.

Oh my word, I have never seen anything like it. I mean I knew of the suffragette movement, but I didn’t know a great deal about it.

If you haven’t seen it then I am suggesting it. It is a true eye opener.

The things these women went through is astounding.

They were beaten, arrested, force fed and imprisoned.

The one that got me was Emily Davison.


You may not know her name or even her face.

But I guarantee you will know her for what she did.

In 1913 she stepped in front of king George v horse at the epsom derby. The image was seen around the world.

She died from her injuries. She died for her cause. For womens rights.

She wanted women to have the right to vote. But also to show that women have a voice. We matter. It’s not just a man’s world.

At that time though, women cooked, cleaned, worked in factories and bore children.

They had no say, no voice, no rights.

Could not, should not speak up.

After her death it took a good while for the suffragette movement to make some difference – not until 1928 were womens rights recognised in Britain.

She was brave. Strong. Courageous. And wouldn’t take no for an answer.

She is a true inspiration.
We have rights. We have a voice. We are strong.

We have rights because of Emily and all those like her.

FMF – Connect

Its back.

The first five minute friday of 2017! This year I hope to do all of them.

Self care is my thing this year, taking time out do things I enjoy. And I enjoy blogging, writing down my thoughts, reading others…Etc..Etc..

So in the spirit of sticking to my word, here is my (albiet late) five minute friday post.

As usual I am joining in with kate and her linkup of lovely bloggers.

Taking 5 minutes out of our busy schedules to write on a given topic – no deleting, no editing..Eek!


This week’s prompt – connect

Ready, set, go.
We all want to connect with someone. It’s human nature.

As babies we connect with our parents. 

As children we try to connect with other children, to make friends.

As teenagers we try to connect with different peer groups, trying to fit in. To belong.

As adults, I think the same thing applies. It’s surprising how the work place is very much like high school.

But on some level we all want to connect.

Because let me tell you something being lonely sucks, it really sucks.

I told my mum something the other day about how hard it was for me in high school.

How I had a group of friends – 3 or 4. Most days they would be my friend, talk with me, sit with me in class etc.

But other days I would go to school only to find this was no long the case. Today they hated me. Today they would ignore me, blank me, point and laugh at me, openly mock me in class. Basically treat me like garbage.

All I ever wanted was a proper friend. Not one that treated me badly. Yet I let it happen over and over again.

Yet even though this is how people have treated me – I still long to connect.

Because when we connect with those who make us feel good, it builds us up.

Making us feel more worthy of friendship, of kindness.

Everybody deserves kindness. Deserves they can connect with, and talk to.

How do you feel when you connect with others?

Just one connection makes a difference.
Stop.

It’s 2017!

Hey there!

Another year has flown by in a total blur – literally I have very little memory of what happened!

Although I am one of those people who decided to gather up my photo memories of 2016 and post them on social media – yes I am that person!

2016 was a year of many first in our house – Ariana got her first pair of glasses, Bella lost her first tooth, Ariana and her first day of pre school.. Etc 

This year will have its fair share of first too. Ariana starts school full time, James starts pre school this year too!

What were some of your highlights of 2016?

But what about the downsides of 2016?

Terror attacks, major earthquakes, Donald trump!

And don’t even get me started on the huge loses in the TV/music/movie industry!

David Bowie, Prince, Alan Rickman, Ronnie Corbett, Harper Lee, Frank Sinatra jr, Rick Parfitt, George Michael, Carrie Fisher, Debbie Reynolds, Paul Daniels, Doris Roberts, Victoria Wood, Christina Grimmie, Muhammed Ali..To name but a few.

I absolutely adore Alan Rickman! No words can really describe how awesome he was 😔

Hoping that we don’t lose so many this year! We lost a lot of good ones already!
On a lighter note, what are your plans for 2017?